When you’re a single parent, dating can feel like a real minefield. You undoubtedly want to put your children first and do your absolute best for them, but there often comes a time when you become tired of spending your evenings on your own. You start to think about the possibility of a new relationship, and you may well decide that it’s time to take the bull by the horns and get back into the dating game.
It may go without saying, but it’s going to be a completely different ball game this time around. That said though, it can also be massively rewarding, and it could prove to be one of the best decisions that you ever make.
Here are my best tips for dating as a single parent…
Don’t be scared to try dating sites
Just a few short years ago, free online dating sites seemed to carry a bit of a stigma. Let’s get real here though… You’re short on time. You probably haven’t met anyone new in a long time. And your social circle is the one that you’ve always had. It could be time to branch out and try something different.
Take some good quality photos, and put some care and attention into the words that you use on your profile. Be honest, but don’t feel like you have to be modest either. You’ve got a lot to offer, and you shouldn’t be scared to suggest it!
Be upfront about the fact that you’re a parent
Even today, there’s sometimes some stigma associated with being a single parent. Because of this, you may feel tempted to just not mention on your dating profile that you’re a mother – or indeed, a father. In my experience, this is very rarely wise. You may end up wasting your time with people who quite simply aren’t long term prospects.
Everyone is looking for something different, and being open and honest from the very beginning will give you the best chance of finding what you’re searching for. The one for you is out there!
Take your time when it comes to introductions
If you’re using dating sites and you meet someone who you think you might have a connection with, then you’ll have some difficult decisions to make. Take your time, and don’t be afraid to clearly communicate the boundaries that are most important to you. You might decide, for example, that your new partner won’t meet your children for at least three months, or that you won’t invite them to stay the night when your children are at home.
Ultimately, everyone’s expectations are different. What’s most important here is that you take the time to think about what matters to you, and ensuring that you have a conversation so you both understand where you’re coming from, and how things will map out in the future.
Dating as a single parent can be daunting, but that doesn’t mean that you should avoid it completely. Remember that you absolutely deserve to be happy!